Yesterday I got an e-mail of a troubled mom; she met this wonderful man whom she wants to marry, and her little 6 year old girl is giving trouble, whilst her 8 year old boy is so happy with the new 'bonus-daddy'.
It's quite a puzzle sometimes to sort out what goes on in our children's minds, and I can only think that they often mirror and show the unspoken emotions which float around. Children, and probably especially children from troubled families, are so good in reading between the lines!
A trick I'm using myself since a couple of weeks is the rubber band around my wrist: everytime I have a negative or destructive thought, i snap it. It's funny how the physical sensation makes our subconscious mind learn very fast, but it was shocking to see how many negatiove thoughts I still have (and I have een working on that for years now!!). I love Wayne Dyers' definition of destructive thoughts (or behavior): Everything which brings us further away form our mission, our goals in life, or from God, is negative. Every thought or behavior that brings us nearer is positive. Very clearcut! Negative emotions often start with one little negative thought, which leads to a whole bunch of negative thoughts, which leads to feeling rotten and depressed.
Although I consider myself a cheery and optimistic person, you would be surprised to see how many little tiny negative thoughts creep in during a day. So that's my challenge for the near future: becoming more aware of my own role ; of my own communication between the lines!
And about yesterday's plan: I started making my DreamSheet (the idea comes from the Passiontest (Go to passiontest website), great book to help you jump on the right wave. Funny how I start having ideas about how my life should look like, say 5 years from now. And really funny how you suddenly are obliged to think into details if you actually have to find pictures to match your dreamlife!
It's quite a puzzle sometimes to sort out what goes on in our children's minds, and I can only think that they often mirror and show the unspoken emotions which float around. Children, and probably especially children from troubled families, are so good in reading between the lines!
A trick I'm using myself since a couple of weeks is the rubber band around my wrist: everytime I have a negative or destructive thought, i snap it. It's funny how the physical sensation makes our subconscious mind learn very fast, but it was shocking to see how many negatiove thoughts I still have (and I have een working on that for years now!!). I love Wayne Dyers' definition of destructive thoughts (or behavior): Everything which brings us further away form our mission, our goals in life, or from God, is negative. Every thought or behavior that brings us nearer is positive. Very clearcut! Negative emotions often start with one little negative thought, which leads to a whole bunch of negative thoughts, which leads to feeling rotten and depressed.
Although I consider myself a cheery and optimistic person, you would be surprised to see how many little tiny negative thoughts creep in during a day. So that's my challenge for the near future: becoming more aware of my own role ; of my own communication between the lines!
And about yesterday's plan: I started making my DreamSheet (the idea comes from the Passiontest (Go to passiontest website), great book to help you jump on the right wave. Funny how I start having ideas about how my life should look like, say 5 years from now. And really funny how you suddenly are obliged to think into details if you actually have to find pictures to match your dreamlife!
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