to match or not to match

People are either matchers, or mismatchers. If you are a mismatcher, you are critical, you see what is missing, you see what is wrong. if you are a matcher, you see what is in it for you, you see what is right, you see what could be useful. Yesterday, I visited a friend of mine, Maria, together with Mike, another friend. Mike and I are extreme matchers, and Maria is a mismatcher. This turned out to be realy funny. Maria had chocolate biscuits for tea, a brand she had never had before, and neither did we. Maria’s first reaction was: “bèh, sloppy cookies, they seem to be old instead of fresh”. Mike and I said almost simultaneous: “Maybe they’re meant to be like that!” The package was divided into several small plastic packages with 5 cookies each, and after the first package we opened the second. The cookies in the second package were crispy…
What we realised, is that being extreme in either direction is not effective. Extreme mismatchers see all the shortcomings of everything, they only see the negative side and generally are not happy with their life. Extreme matchers only see possibilities, they only see the positive side, and they are very happy with their life. Being a matchers sounds attractive to me, I have to admit, but I do realise that much of my potential keeps being underused. It just seldom dawns on me that something could be better!
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